Founder and Lead Therapist at DHFT
Welcome! I admire your vulnerability - It takes deep courage and strength to ask for help and acknowledge that at times we cannot do it alone. I am glad you are here, as sustainable change and growth starts from within you.
My name is Deborah. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist and fifth-year doctoral candidate. I completed my clinical training at the Department of Psychiatry Family Studies Center at UT Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas. I have done extensive work with couples and families in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, specializing in a highly effective therapeutic model. I have training and experience with children and adolescents with mental health and behavioral problems in the partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient setting.
I am a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. I am also an active member of Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. I was the top-producing therapist at my former group practice and received accolades for the efficacy of my clinical work with families in agency. I have researched and presented on varied topics, including attachment and adult attachment, re-partnered couples, remarriage, stepmotherhood, blended families and stepfamilies, children of divorce, self-care and compassion, and neuroscience.
HIGH CONFLICT COUPLES THERAPY: MY SPECIALTY
My passion lies in helping couples caught in a vicious cycle to find healing and connection again. It is not about “good” or “bad” partner, but the attachment injuries couples experience and the negative dance that they get caught in that hinders belonging and security between partners. These attachment injuries and wounds leave couples feeling hurt, alone, fearful, and disconnected, paralyzing the growth of the relationship.
Intentional care and maturation of your relationship with your partner is imperative for the relationship to be meaningful and long-lasting. When you acquire deep connection and safety with your significant other, it is easier to overcome life stressors. Veritably, becoming the best version of ourselves require a willful and profound connection with our partner as love has an ability to heal the wounds and injuries that we carry. We need connection with our loved one like the air we breathe.
BLENDING YOUR LIVES AND FAMILIES AS A COUPLE
With the divorce rates for those entering second or subsequent marriages are profoundly greater (60% divorce rate for second marriages) than those in first marriages, I am devoted to offering premarital counseling to couples who are remarrying (whether remarriage may be for one or both partners). I carry a strong focus on high conflict couples and families; divorce and remarriage; blended families and stepfamilies; stepparent issues; co-parenting and parenting; infidelity; children and adolescent depression, anxiety, and suicide; and parent-child dyads.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, which provides depth in my ability to help couples just like you who are experiencing disconnection, isolation, hopelessness, or who are on completely different pages establish secure attachment, hope, and that spark again! I believe my clients are the experts of their lives. I take a collaborative, direct, and empathic approach in my work with couples, families, and individuals.
As a systems counselor, my deep appreciation and excitement for working with families is inevitable. With three little ones at home, I know how unique each family member can be and that every family has a unique story to tell.
Even if your parents, kids, or partner are displaying “symptoms” that feel difficult for you to navigate or understand, you can make small and powerful changes that could impact your family and the dynamics/interactions within your familial system. Change is possible and paramount - We must shift with the ever evolving world around us or we become stuck. Family of origin is necessary to understand as it colors who we are and our worldview. Much of my work has been with parent-child dyads.
I am also fluent in Korean - I have worked extensively with Korean parent-child dyads and couples where at least one members’ native language is English at my practice. I would be happy to integrate this into our work together if you need.
My hope is that this process may be a rich and raw growing experience that allows you to feel safe and validated, inspire depth in your relationship with others, and able to become the most desired version of yourself. I will collaboratively work with you to provide the support, insight, and tools you need. If you allow yourself to be seen and trust in the therapeutic process, you may see authentic beauty unfold in your life and your relationships with others.
I look forward to creating meaningful shifts with you!